TEDx talk on Porn by Gary Wilson

 

Quite an interesting talk. The notion that the brain is always after “new mates” ran true to me. My pornographic tastes are always fluctuating, and I always find myself search out new porn. The weight of anecdotal evidence that’s now appearing with men speaking out against compulsive and addictive behavior towards porn is overwhelming. There’s even a group of people on The Student Room with the aim not to masturbate for the whole of 2013. I am seriously considering quitting for good.

Handjobs and Blowjobs

In some previous posts I had questioned whether I should classify handjobs and blowjobs as masturbation. I decided today that on my new calendar for this year I should denote them differently to get a more accurate picture of my sexual experiences. So, henceforth either a job of any kind shall be denoted as ‘J’. My thoughts were drawn to this because of a wonderful session I had last night with my girlfriend. My house is currently empty as the rest of my housemates have yet to arrive. This meant that I could moan and gasp and say her name as much (and as loudly) as I wanted. It did take her a while to get me there (more because this was the second time that night than anything else), but when I came it was VERY intense! The sad thing is that it’ll be difficult for us to be in that same situation for some time.

I also got to thinking about the differences between men and women over verbal noise during sex. I’ve known women who are very shy about making too much noise, but generally it seems more acceptable for a woman to gasp and moan loudly. Perhaps this is something to do with the perception of women as the ‘weaker sex’, not being able to keep a lid on their sexuality? Or perhaps it’s a case that their orgasms are just more intense and therefore uninhibit them enough to be loud? Personally I believe it is more something to do with social-conditioning than physical intensity. If you moan and scream to your heart’s content, forget the world and the people living next door, you will more likely experience a more fulfilling orgasm. IMHO.

Analysing My Sexual Patterns

So far I’ve only been analysing my masturbatory habits, i.e. I’ve been notching on my calendar each time I masturbate to keep account of exactly how much I do it. My monthly average for February was 0,41/day, and for March 0,32/day. So I’ve pretty much gone from 3 times a week, to twice a week, which seems about right according to castimonia’s comment (http://wp.me/p25qF7-1z) on a previous post. But then I thought I haven’t been accounting for sex so perhaps I’m averaging more than I should be. Therefore I’ve decided to mark my calendar with an ‘s’ each time I have sex and orgasm/ejaculate. Including these times, for April I’m on about 6 times a week; double what I should be. So I reckon I need to check my masturbation a little more and make sure I try to reduce my sexual stimulation further.